We all deserve good partners.
This is my series on Get Better Sorta Faster- ways in which a foundation in self coaching helps all aspects of your life feel less terrible, and sometimes even much better! You’re never getting off the human experience. Half of it will suck. Half will be good– but that 50% can drastically reduce, depending on how we approach it, how much structural oppression we uniquely face, how much support / genuine human connection we have (or don’t) and probably loads of other factors that we can’t control. This series is just about the stuff we DO control, specifically our thoughts.
I was born to be a partner. I am a classic middle child– always left out but also constantly rounding everyone up. I was also the only girl. Both a lonely position as well as a mysterious, and consistently misunderstood one.
It left me yearning for partnership. For someone who really got me.
So I became an exceptional partner– at first mostly to people who didn't want partners. Now, I think we all as humans desire and deserve beautiful partners. It’s only when we don’t feel we are deserving or good enought that we end up rejecting partnership. However, it’s still not always the time to be a partner when someone else doesn’t want it.
It took me a long time to realize that not everyone is ready for good partnership. Gosh I got into so many ‘relationships’ where partnership was not the goal but it was the foil. None of those worked.
THEN I realized I could find my perfect partners– women who are open to growth and want to drop self-oppressive thinking and are excited to have a partner in this process. They value creative approaches and are open to seeing things in a new way.
So, let me say that again more plainly and with a little more specificity.
I am a GREAT partner for women who:
value growing and evolving (aka, they probably own a lot of self-help / healing / spiritually-uplifting books and listen to a lot of Elizabeth Gilbert and Alex Elle and Glennon Doyle)
have a desire to move beyond negative self-talk, self-loathing, oppressive thinking, constant guilt, etc and want to actually love themselves (they’re drawn to inspiring writers and poets like Cleo Wade)
like the idea of a friend in this process, one that they talk to consistently and even (and especially when) they’re feeling down (they are often oversharing online or follow those who do, wishing they could find the courage to do so themselves AND they’re likely to throw some kind of tarot card or fortune telling or reflection brunch)
So, if you are someone who reads self help books, is always trying to find the good in things, likes having really close friendships then I am a good fit for you as a coach / partner.
Good partners–
think about us and want to improve our experience with them
acknowledge our humanity, yet don’t use it against us
don’t require us to be superhuman
imagine what it’s like to be us
value partnership
look inside themselves often
evolve as they grow
are honest
require us to be good partners, too
So, if you’re looking for a good partner, or you want to learn how to be a better one– head over here.